The Vetting Card
One brother told us: "I have a small circle. That is on purpose. But sometimes that means there is nobody around when I need them."
This is not about cutting people off. It is about being honest with yourself about what each person is for. Sort the people in your life. Be honest. You can come back and change it.
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The Pub Friend
Good for: laughs, distraction, watching the match, talking about anything except the hard stuff.
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The Vault
Good for: the hard stuff. They have proven they can hold it. They have held it before.
Empty for now. That is okay. Most men have to build this. The Brotherhood chapter is where you start.
Questions to ask yourself
- Who do I celebrate wins with?
- Who do I trust with my struggles?
- When was the last time I called the person in The Vault?
- Is there nobody in The Vault yet? That is information, not a failure.
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